Our Yes' are also our No's

For the past couple of months I have been going to a Thursday morning moms group called Mom to Mom. In case you have never heard of it (I hadn't), Mom to Mom is a program that has been around for a number of years already. It is similar to Alpha or Divorce Care, in that each session has a video talk and a series of discussion questions. The program is being sponsored by a new church in our area. In the beginning it was just me and the two facilitators and then one other woman joined. At first I was disappointed that there weren't any other young moms and that it was so small. But I have enjoyed the chats and intimacy that comes in a very small group.

One of the things talked about in the last session, was that our yes' are also our no's. I had never really looked at it this way before, so it got me to thinking. So many people seem to have such a hard time saying no to things in life. I know I struggled with this for a long time, but I am happy to say that over the past couple of years I have become much better at it, thanks to David's encouragement.

When we say yes to something, at the same time we are saying no to other things in our lives. Often times what we non intentionally say "no" to are spending time with our spouses, families and friends, spending time with God, taking time for ourselves, etc. We make our own priorities; our actions and how we choose to spend our time illustrate those priorities.

I suppose I'm sharing this because it challenged me and made me look at my own life. What am I saying yes to and what does that imply for what I am consequently saying no to. My life has changed a lot in the past 8 months, a new baby, a new home, a new province, new friends, and a new way of spending my time. Does the way that I spend my time reflect what I value and what's most important to me? That's the question that's been on my mind. Anyways, it's something to think about.

So the next time that I am in the situation where a "yes" is asked of me, I will try to think of what the consequent "no" means and go from there. I know that thinking of it this way will make saying no to things a lot easier. Anyways, those are my thoughts today.

Yesterday I woke up to a blanket of snow on the ground and it continued to snow much of the day. Not a lot of snow, but enough for it to be pretty and white. So far so good with Ontario weather. Anyways, I enjoyed a relaxing day at home. Each day Sarah does better with the bottle. At this point I would say she has fully got it and I'm thankful that my body has adjusted well. Well, enjoy your Sunday.